Thursday, 20 January 2011

To dummy or not to dummy, that is the question

To dummy, or not to dummy: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The cries and sobs of outrageous child,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by giving dummy end them? To suck: to sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the hand gnawing
That baby is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To suck, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep of the dummied baby what dreams may come
When we have silenced the child,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calamity of so short life;

Ok. I've just ruined Shakespeare to illustrate my point. I am not anti-dummy, little i had one that she called her me-me.  But I think she had it a bit too long and my gut is telling me that I don't want little m to have one. Then there are times when I think she should have one because she's beginning to suck her fist for comfort.

The thing is, little m is not a screamer. She's a very settled child and the only reason I'd be giving her one is to discourage the hand sucking. But then you get a bit dummy reliant. I don’t want it to feel like I'm giving her a dummy to keep her quiet. She's a very good baby. And I think that last statement sums it up. Little i loved her dummy but I felt like I was punishing her for making a noise. Mad? Maybe.

Oh, I just don't know. Right now, she's fine without but I know that later the doubts will come back again. I suppose all I can do is take it one day at a time and see where we end up.

1 comment:

  1. tricky isn't it? Ben didnt have one keon nearly did for his reflux but he didn't take to it. I see it as another thing to wean them off and i like they got comfort from me not a bit of plastic. neither boys sucked their thumbs but keon did suck his hand sometimes. I personally don't like them but some people around here tend to use them even up to and beyond pre school age. Now ive heard it prevents cot death, not sure why it does will have to look into the reasoning behind it. If you decide not to you might find when shes about 8 weeks old they find there own ways of settling themselves a little..well thats just my experiences anyway.