To dummy, or not to dummy: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The cries and sobs of outrageous child,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by giving dummy end them? To suck: to sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the hand gnawing
That baby is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To suck, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep of the dummied baby what dreams may come
When we have silenced the child,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calamity of so short life;
Ok. I've just ruined Shakespeare to illustrate my point. I am not anti-dummy, little i had one that she called her me-me. But I think she had it a bit too long and my gut is telling me that I don't want little m to have one. Then there are times when I think she should have one because she's beginning to suck her fist for comfort.
The thing is, little m is not a screamer. She's a very settled child and the only reason I'd be giving her one is to discourage the hand sucking. But then you get a bit dummy reliant. I don’t want it to feel like I'm giving her a dummy to keep her quiet. She's a very good baby. And I think that last statement sums it up. Little i loved her dummy but I felt like I was punishing her for making a noise. Mad? Maybe.
Oh, I just don't know. Right now, she's fine without but I know that later the doubts will come back again. I suppose all I can do is take it one day at a time and see where we end up.